Marriage is POWERFUL
Hello readers, my name is Lis and I am married with my devoted loyal handsome husband who is a much older man than me. We were blessed with 3 children (two teenagers daughter and one son).
I first met my husband in Shanghai China. We were introduced to each other by a good friend and there we go. We only have 2 dates and then we enter “Marriage with a legal marriage certificate”😄
Before I’ve met my hubby, previously I had a boyfriend (who is 10-ish years older then me). I met him at work abroad and he was charming then and good looking too. We were separated after almost two years in relationship due to job’s reason. We were deeply in a relationship and were in loved too then until bad situation came after us and then sadly we broke up, he never looked for me after the break up. He was too afraid to make a commitment, then I moved on with my life.
I first met my husband in Shanghai China. We were introduced to each other by a good friend and there we go. We only have 2 dates and then we enter “Marriage with a legal marriage certificate”😄
Before I’ve met my hubby, previously I had a boyfriend (who is 10-ish years older then me). I met him at work abroad and he was charming then and good looking too. We were separated after almost two years in relationship due to job’s reason. We were deeply in a relationship and were in loved too then until bad situation came after us and then sadly we broke up, he never looked for me after the break up. He was too afraid to make a commitment, then I moved on with my life.
So I went to China for a job and there was the love of my life and the father of my children I met. It was never been easy for the two of us in terms of dealing with relatives, especially from my side of family. I came from a big family’s background and pride is all about Priority in my Family’s culture.
My husband and I came from a different culture’s background , different country’s and different in age aswell. Very challenging indeed.
When I started to introduce my husband to my mother, she of course refuses him hence he is old enough to be my father and she even try to break our marriage. But she gets over after we had our first child “a beautiful daughter”.
My husband is the most reliable and practical husband to be with according to my view.
He actually mentors me a lot in many different ways of reviewing life-path. He is mature and he is a great husband, above all he is the greatest father that I ever witnessed in my entire life. Our children are very fortune and very blessed to have him as their father. Sometime my husband over-spoiling the kids though so that is his weakness otherwise the father’s vibe of him is super duper. He is a better father then me as a mother.
My husband and I came from a different culture’s background , different country’s and different in age aswell. Very challenging indeed.
When I started to introduce my husband to my mother, she of course refuses him hence he is old enough to be my father and she even try to break our marriage. But she gets over after we had our first child “a beautiful daughter”.
My husband is the most reliable and practical husband to be with according to my view.
He actually mentors me a lot in many different ways of reviewing life-path. He is mature and he is a great husband, above all he is the greatest father that I ever witnessed in my entire life. Our children are very fortune and very blessed to have him as their father. Sometime my husband over-spoiling the kids though so that is his weakness otherwise the father’s vibe of him is super duper. He is a better father then me as a mother.
Now, we are going to talk about the battle.
Oooohh sounds “Depressing”.
It was depressing and a very negative attack indeed being married to an older man especially WHEN YOU ARE GETTING OUT OF THE CAGE.
Why did I say “Cage”??
Well it is true, because we are living in it.
So, we as a happy family “ A much older husband who is the greatest father to our children, a great husband, with a younger mom/wife, with 3 young beautiful perfect children who live Happily and joyfully in our own made world who are just occupied by us which is our home”.
So we call that territorial is our “CAGE”. And as soon as we as family got out of our cage, negativity begins and sometime can be depressing.
At first I think that maybe just our own assumption to think that people looking at us as a weird family, however The lie can not be hidden from the societies perspective.
As an example:
My husband will go out to the mall with my 6 years old son and there will be many sincere comments from people “oh how handsome is your grandson”.... and when I suddenly show up and my husband call me “Honey”, then the sour face and sarcasm, eye rolling, any negativity emoji on the people’s appearance you can imagine will pop out.
We feel bad after when we face those negative reactions.
Well we don’t fell bad for ourselves but we feel bad for themselves because if they ever know how happy family we are and how loving father my husband is, how awesome husband is he to me, how proud our children about us as their parents and so on.
I don’t judge those people anymore, However I used to but now I always swallow it like a good size pill, as the end of the day “It is about my family’s happiness NOT about other’s opinions” so I have to be immuned to the bacterial infection out there whom might attack us in whatever way.
So that’s the side effect of marrying a much older man, sort of.
It is not the end of the world of marriage-good but it is Solvable.
When we as a younger woman marrying a much older husband could change many plan and routine in the friendships.
My husband doesn’t like to hangout with my friend, well he likes them I am sure however he doesn’t really enjoy them as being “Friend”.
The same with me, I don’t really enjoy hanging out with oldies too often although I really appreciate the conversations with them because adding knowledge to my personal benefit.
Most of people that my hubby hanged out with are polite and respectful to younger woman.
The conclusion of “friendships” in this term is not the greatest.
This conclusion doesn’t favour the children in social life, generally speaking.
However if you have relatives with young children, then kid’s social life will be recovered though, otherwise, the children have to have strong courage to accept things they can’t change.
And the same to us as a parents, we have to be more sensitive to the children about this whole situation, we can not avoid those issue but we can substitute it by traveling a lot or family vacation as often as can be. So get ready to make more money in order to make it happen.
The key to build our children confident and positive character is :
1. PLENTY OF COMMUNICATION between PARENTS & CHILDREN
2. Travelling or family vacations as often as can be.
NEXT, What about relatives and closed friends opinion about the two couple who is a younger woman marrying a much older man?
First impression is “The younger woman is a gold digger”.
Assuming of why would young good looking woman marrying a man who is old enough to be her dad right?
Well that is the fact I received from the sources. I am not the kind of person who has a thick skin to this issue. I am intelligent enough person who based my decision on rational and logical.
If my husband was poor and not established, I will never marry him.
If my husband was shorter then me, I will not marry him.
If my husband was Over weight and bold headed, I won’t marry him.
If my husband has a wife, I won’t marry him.
If my husband image is not meeting my Standard or if he is not handsome enough to my standard then I won’t marry him.
If my husband was a criminal then I won’t marry him.
If my husband is bipolar and a mean angry person then I won’t marry him.
But he is just the man who meet my requirements plus I have feeling of bonding with him so I Accept his proposal to marry me.
I knew beforehand and made all the considerations of what challenges might appeared a head of us later on. I made my own choice of marrying him with a 100% confident.
And I was ready then and I always be ready.
And yeah.... my prediction came to a reality.
We faced huge problem together as a couple and as a family, but our love for each other is keeping us going stronger and matter fact, our LOVE for each other is STRONGER THAN HELL.
I am a hardworking person, I am a fighter in life, I love to win and I hate loosing.
I am ambitious sometimes in some context but it has to be for “Victory” hence I won’t jump to it.
I knew that marrying my husband will only bring greatness in my life and I can not build my dream
alone. My intuition and my husband’s connection is mutual and we both work together in teamwork to accomplish them. We were meant to be, not by our plan, but we as a believer were chosen by The Creator to fulfill HIS PLAN, because of that, God will succeed us.
Whoever you marry with, no matter his/her age, culture backgrounds or skin colour, I must say that in Marriage there is none of those kind of discrimination. In marriage is all about take and give, and a good harmony. Marriage is a mutual reality including the chemistry blending. One need the others, one complete the other. Two people combined creating a beautiful art of Love no matter what is the background of the two.
Marriage is Powerful.
DON’T EVER LET outsider pick on your marriage hence you loose power and will only make you powerless.
When you are powerless, then you will be dominated by the enemy and easily made as a slave or victim.
Stay Marriage means Stay Victorious and Remain the Power.
Written by:
Lis Ambarita Dickran.
Oooohh sounds “Depressing”.
It was depressing and a very negative attack indeed being married to an older man especially WHEN YOU ARE GETTING OUT OF THE CAGE.
Why did I say “Cage”??
Well it is true, because we are living in it.
So, we as a happy family “ A much older husband who is the greatest father to our children, a great husband, with a younger mom/wife, with 3 young beautiful perfect children who live Happily and joyfully in our own made world who are just occupied by us which is our home”.
So we call that territorial is our “CAGE”. And as soon as we as family got out of our cage, negativity begins and sometime can be depressing.
At first I think that maybe just our own assumption to think that people looking at us as a weird family, however The lie can not be hidden from the societies perspective.
As an example:
My husband will go out to the mall with my 6 years old son and there will be many sincere comments from people “oh how handsome is your grandson”.... and when I suddenly show up and my husband call me “Honey”, then the sour face and sarcasm, eye rolling, any negativity emoji on the people’s appearance you can imagine will pop out.
We feel bad after when we face those negative reactions.
Well we don’t fell bad for ourselves but we feel bad for themselves because if they ever know how happy family we are and how loving father my husband is, how awesome husband is he to me, how proud our children about us as their parents and so on.
I don’t judge those people anymore, However I used to but now I always swallow it like a good size pill, as the end of the day “It is about my family’s happiness NOT about other’s opinions” so I have to be immuned to the bacterial infection out there whom might attack us in whatever way.
So that’s the side effect of marrying a much older man, sort of.
It is not the end of the world of marriage-good but it is Solvable.
When we as a younger woman marrying a much older husband could change many plan and routine in the friendships.
My husband doesn’t like to hangout with my friend, well he likes them I am sure however he doesn’t really enjoy them as being “Friend”.
The same with me, I don’t really enjoy hanging out with oldies too often although I really appreciate the conversations with them because adding knowledge to my personal benefit.
Most of people that my hubby hanged out with are polite and respectful to younger woman.
The conclusion of “friendships” in this term is not the greatest.
This conclusion doesn’t favour the children in social life, generally speaking.
However if you have relatives with young children, then kid’s social life will be recovered though, otherwise, the children have to have strong courage to accept things they can’t change.
And the same to us as a parents, we have to be more sensitive to the children about this whole situation, we can not avoid those issue but we can substitute it by traveling a lot or family vacation as often as can be. So get ready to make more money in order to make it happen.
The key to build our children confident and positive character is :
1. PLENTY OF COMMUNICATION between PARENTS & CHILDREN
2. Travelling or family vacations as often as can be.
NEXT, What about relatives and closed friends opinion about the two couple who is a younger woman marrying a much older man?
First impression is “The younger woman is a gold digger”.
Assuming of why would young good looking woman marrying a man who is old enough to be her dad right?
Well that is the fact I received from the sources. I am not the kind of person who has a thick skin to this issue. I am intelligent enough person who based my decision on rational and logical.
If my husband was poor and not established, I will never marry him.
If my husband was shorter then me, I will not marry him.
If my husband was Over weight and bold headed, I won’t marry him.
If my husband has a wife, I won’t marry him.
If my husband image is not meeting my Standard or if he is not handsome enough to my standard then I won’t marry him.
If my husband was a criminal then I won’t marry him.
If my husband is bipolar and a mean angry person then I won’t marry him.
But he is just the man who meet my requirements plus I have feeling of bonding with him so I Accept his proposal to marry me.
I knew beforehand and made all the considerations of what challenges might appeared a head of us later on. I made my own choice of marrying him with a 100% confident.
And I was ready then and I always be ready.
And yeah.... my prediction came to a reality.
We faced huge problem together as a couple and as a family, but our love for each other is keeping us going stronger and matter fact, our LOVE for each other is STRONGER THAN HELL.
I am a hardworking person, I am a fighter in life, I love to win and I hate loosing.
I am ambitious sometimes in some context but it has to be for “Victory” hence I won’t jump to it.
I knew that marrying my husband will only bring greatness in my life and I can not build my dream
alone. My intuition and my husband’s connection is mutual and we both work together in teamwork to accomplish them. We were meant to be, not by our plan, but we as a believer were chosen by The Creator to fulfill HIS PLAN, because of that, God will succeed us.
Whoever you marry with, no matter his/her age, culture backgrounds or skin colour, I must say that in Marriage there is none of those kind of discrimination. In marriage is all about take and give, and a good harmony. Marriage is a mutual reality including the chemistry blending. One need the others, one complete the other. Two people combined creating a beautiful art of Love no matter what is the background of the two.
Marriage is Powerful.
DON’T EVER LET outsider pick on your marriage hence you loose power and will only make you powerless.
When you are powerless, then you will be dominated by the enemy and easily made as a slave or victim.
Stay Marriage means Stay Victorious and Remain the Power.
Written by:
Lis Ambarita Dickran.
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